Forgiveness is an act of generosity, so extend it both to the other person and to yourself. This doesn’t mean pretending a problem doesn’t exist, but it requires you to accept that people are doing the best they can with the resources they currently have.
You don’t have to get a job that makes others feel comfortable about what they perceive as your success. You don’t have to explain what you plan to do with your life. You don’t have to justify your education by demonstrating its financial rewards. You don’t have to maintain an impeccable credit score. Anyone who expects you to do any of those things has no sense of history or economics or science or the arts.
You have to pay your own electric bill. You have to be kind. You have to give it all you got. You have to find people who love you truly and love them back with the same truth.